Failure is a bend in the road: Not the end of the road.

Read the title, read it again now say it out loud.   Now answer me this, how many times have you picked the destination before you have even finished the journey. At times, we are our  own worst enemy in life, especially when it comes to our own thoughts and the future. Most of the times our final destination doesn’t meet the expectations of the reality and it knocks us down, makes us over think and over analyze everything. My advice today is plain and simple. Stop overthinking, life is what life is and sitting for days, weeks and months pondering and mulling over the outcome of something that has already passed isn’t going to change it and it also isn’t going to improve our current situation.

We need to be more realistic and not over dramatize everything, we need to see things for what they are and not what we want them to be, we need to look at what we have instead of what we don’t, we need to think about everything with a lot more positivity.
So how do we do that, how do we change these thoughts and ideas of the ideal future we have from consuming us and in turn always feel disappointed when they don’t turn out as they should. The answer is simple. Positive Mental attitude.

Realize that you get to control your reactions: We create our outside reality through the thoughts and beliefs we maintain about life in general. What we believe in our inner world, we see in our outer world—not the other way around. We all have problems, and we’re often tested by circumstances outside of our control. Even though you may not be in control of what’s going on outside of you, you most definitely can control your reaction to those situations. We have the power because our inner world (cause) affects the influence we allow the outer world (effect) to have on us. So, next time you hear somebody mention that you have great personal power, know they are 100% correct. You have more control than you think.

Love who you are: No one in this world is better qualified to set you on the right path or point you in the right direction as you. You know yourself better than anyone else in the entire world. You are unique you are different, you are special, so just embrace that part and love with a passion. Enjoy who you have become, ok you may not be everyone’s cup of tea but you are someone and you should have so much self-love that that, in turn, builds and gives you the confidence and the courage of your convictions to do the right thing for you at any given moment in time in life.

Take Responsibility. At any moment, your attitude can be that of a victim or the creator. The first step you need to take to shift from victim to creator is to take responsibility. Here’s the attitude of a creator:
I create my life.
I am responsible for me.
I’m in charge of my destiny
When we teach ourselves this everything appears with more clarity allowing us to adjust our next move accordingly. People can suggest, inform and even try and push us into making choices but only you can actually make them you are your own person to take some responsibility, stand-up be strong and do what your heart and gut are telling you to do and don’t try and shift the blame when it goes wrong.

Steamroller the bullies in life: I am not talking about violence or physical harm here I am talking about the one tool you have that a negative person doesn’t. A great outlook and strong-minded opinion and approach. Nothing scares a negative person more than coming across someone who has it in place, has a plan, has a solution, has everything ready to move forward. They won’t even suggest negativity towards you if they see how strong, confident and self-assured you are. Push straight through them with not one seconds thought to how they perceive you. Remember life is not a dress rehearsal this is the real deal a one-time only show, stop letting negativity affect you and embrace the moment and live it as if every day were your last. I promise you won’t regret it. But be warned you will piss people off when you start doing what’s right for you.

Stop Expecting Life to Be Easy. The truth is, life gets tough at times. For all of us. It can even be painful. But you’re brave, resourceful, and you can take it. Know that sometimes things won’t be easy, and adopt the attitude that you have what it takes to deal with anything that life throws at you. If you become like the modern generation and expect everything handed to you and everything gift wrapped, then you’re in for a disappointment. Have realistic expectations, Of course, set the standards bar high but also have realistic expectations especially of other people. Not everyone can manage these things we talk about so of course there will always be people to remind you about disappointment and failure, I refer you back to the paragraph above, please.

I once read” Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude toward us.” and that is very true. Stop thinking every twist and turn is a negative some of the most important lessons in life have transpired through negative actions, the trick is to learn from them and move on.  We honestly do become what we think and I promise you 1 million per cent, if we take life on life terms and learn and grow from it, Life can be one hell of an experience folks.

Serenity NLP Therapy & Coaching are masters of positivity and getting you to see things from a different perspective, we are based in Ayrshire Scotland and are only one message or call away for more information why not just reach out to Kevin on 07788119374 or drop him a line at info@serenitynlp.com all phone consultations are free and you have nothing to lose and everything to gain, See you soon folks<

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