We want to make one thing clear, opening up and talking about your problems to friends, family or even your GP is invaluable, that is the case now, always has been and always will be. Sharing your thoughts of where you are in life and what is happening in your own mind will help you carry less of a burden, offer some release and allow others to start looking at ways to get the best available help for you. That is unless that best available help is a sit down talk based approach and let us explain why.
As evidence grows that anti-depressant drugs are ineffective, more of us are likely to turn to talk based counselling or talk based therapy. But, counselling and talk based therapy can mean being traumatised again. I mean for one you have to go over everything that’s hurting you again and explain all your thoughts, feelings emotions and describe what it was that made you feel that way in the first place. Now factually as you know our words directly create our thinking, our thinking directly creates our feelings and that’s the part that sculpts our behaviours in life. So surely if the aim is to get better and remove the negative thoughts and feelings talking about them all again creates the very thing that is hurting you in the first place. Being asked to remember back to a time when you felt good means you have to look past the negative to find that part and again we feel worse off for it. Some one sat with a clipboard nodding and asking you how you feel now you have got it off your chest really doesn’t help. So again if we are looking to change the thoughts and feelings reliving them is in fact the opposite. We have lost count the time a client has arrived feeling worse off having finished a course in talk based therapy and still doesn’t feel any better.
A recent article in the Psychologist journal, entitled When Therapy Causes Harm, cautions that approximately 10% of people get worse after starting therapy. Yet the belief in the innocuousness of talk based therapy and counselling remains persistent and prevalent says the article’s author and spokesman for the British Psychological Society.